Divorce is a complicated legal and emotional battle, especially if you have children with your ex. There are many transitional stages to go through to empty the rocks one by one from your rucksuck to lighten the load.
What people don't really talk about is that divorce is an ongoing transition. It is often the case that repetition occurs in certain things that you promised yourself, it never would. To stop these rocks from weighing you down, here are 5 of those things:
Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.
The world is a big place. Your heart may have been broken, but you are worthy of finding love again with someone who will reciprocate this unrequited love. In every divorce there is usually at least one broken heart, the one that loved and lost, the one that still secretly hopes for a change of heart or reconnection with an ex spouse. This "love" you think you have for your ex is most likely not going to reignite, so you really need to learn to let this go, in all relationships why would you wish to be with someone, who doesn't wish you to be with you? You shouldn't is the answer because out there, are seven billion more people you can meet who want you for you. So let this love go and focus on the new.
If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.
We can struggle with feelings of injustice during and after a divorce and the rights and wrongs of it all. Our thoughts are dominated by how we’ve been treated unfairly by the judicial system, the ex and how they cheated and lied and yet carry on without an ounce of remorse. They didn’t declare financial statements and proclaim to be hard up and yet they are enjoying luxury holidays and driving around in a new car. This is infuriating and you want to scream, "this is so wrong"! Ultimately, for your own mental wellbeing and as hard as it may be, you have to let it go. Shift your thinking into “it is what it is”. Focus on you and what you are in control of. You have the power to change your life, so long as you let go of the past. Concentrate on you, the here and now, today, tomorrow. The very best thing you can do, is let it be.
The author of divorceseparationcoach.co.uk and a wide variety of inspirational & helpful blogs, to aid you in getting your life back on track after divorce. In addition to your personal coach, her own experiences will provide a unique and considered insight, into the things you can do to keep positive and motivated.